Live what you love

I realized I don’t know how to be jealous. My skills stop after liking “Jealous Guy” by John Lennon. If someone tells me something like “I had something to do“, I don’t ask questions. I trust everybody. Still, I have learned the hard way that many unasked “where are you?” gets you closer to being cheated on. So, better safe than sorry. Boys and girls, here’s my 2 cents.

1. Relax, take it easy. If you have just met someone, chances are you don’t know much about her or her friends or their habits. So, take each day at a time. Wait and see how things go. Feel the rhythm of the relationship before you give ultimatums, worry if that rhythm gets disrupted.

2. Be a little paranoid. You know how sometimes you get a bad feeling and your reason tells you the worst can’t happen? Well, it can. I’ve been there. So, if you sometimes feel like something is wrong (and you don’t get the feeling every 5 minutes, in which case you’re just insecure and that doesn’t count as a reason for jealousy!!) you should just be honest about it. Just say: “This doesn’t feel right. Tell me what’s wrong.” and listen.

3. Don’t get upset for no reason! Ask for an explanation before getting mad. What if you were just imagining things? Stay cool and think about it. Only after you have heard the explanation and that proves to be a lie, you should get upset.

4. Don’t be too forgiving. You might mean well, but 1 + 1 = 2, no exceptions. So if your significant other has cheated on you several times, well, don’t be surprised when it happens again. Plus, if you decide to overlook some things, be cure you understand the circumstances. Was it a one time thing? Or a six-months long thing? There is a difference between the two cases.

5. See the signs. What’s up with the silent mode on the phone all the time? How come you just take off from time to time? I don’t know any of your friends. Those are the signs!

So, my friends, I shouldn’t be giving any advice, since I learned how bad it hurts by falling. Still, I think a little jealousy spices up things. It shows you care. Just as long as it’s “a little” and not “too much”. But there’s a thin line between the two - and when it comes to crossing that line, you’re on your own!

Am avut azi ocazia sa revad cativa prieteni dragi. Inca nu pe toti si nici pe cei care ma asteptau... sa ne luam ramas bun unii de la altii. Ce sentiment ciudat a fost sa stiu ca nu ma voi mai vedea saptamanal cu acei oameni. Singurul fapt ca ne stim de 3 ani si am lucrat in echipa de multe ori si stim multe unii depre altii ne face sa ne simtim atasati unii de ceilalti. Si e atat de greu de la un moment dat incolo sa-ti faci prieteni.

Ati observat? Prietenii nu sunt ca aia din autobuz de care te lipesti si fara sa vrei. E nevoie de timp si rabdare si tot felul de ingrediente necunoscute (numite si “chimie”). Ne lipim intre noi in mod bizar si e nevoie de ceva providential. De sincronizare, de exemplu.

Nu prea stiu exact cum functioneaza, stiu doar ca unele persoane din viata mea imi sunt ca niste prelungiri.

Cand am cazut pe 1 Mai si mi-am spart capul, am crezut chiar ca o sa mor. Cam asta banuiesc ca ar fi crezut oricine daca ii curgea sange siroaie pe ceafa. Sentimentul e ciudat. Nu prea stiam ce sa fac.

Dar nu am intrat in panica. Eram cu una din prietenele mele cele mai bune. Am mai multa incredere in ea decat in mine insumi.
Stiam ca orice s-ar intampla, ea va lua o decizie corecta. Ca va fi alaturi de mine (eram numai noi doi la munte) si ca va face tot ceea ce este omeneste posibil sa imi fie bine. Si asa s-a si intamplat.

Cel mai valoros lucru cu care ne putem mandri: prietenii.

Acei oameni care ar lasa orice ca sa ne sara in ajutor. Persoanele cu care nu te vezi saptamani, luni in sir si stii totusi ca sunt acolo, ca oricand veti vorbi din nou, va fi ca si cand nu s-ar fi intrerupt legatura. Oamenii carora le-ai da pe mana si copiii, si casa, si cele mai importante secrete. Fara sa eziti. Pentru ca iti asumi deciziile lor ca si cum ar fi ale tale.

Zilele astea m-am simtit foarte norocos. Foarte bogat. Imi iubesc mult, mult de tot prietenii. Si, dupa familie, ei sunt ce am mai scump pe lume.